This letter reached us anonymously. We wish the author well.
I am writing to you to tell you that our relationship can no longer continue. You know the saying it’s not you it’s me? Well I am here to tell you it’s not me but it’s you.
You have taken advantage of me slowly ever since I met you. I managed to stay away from you growing up until age 35. Then you seduced me into spending a little time with you. At first I was so amazed by you. I couldn’t believe it took me so long to get to know you. You made me feel so relaxed like I didn’t have a care in the world.
Unfortunately little did I know how quickly I would become obsessed with you. I was so blind at first I just couldn’t see the problems you were beginning to cause in my life. You worked your magic slowly and methodically to where I just didn’t notice exactly what you were doing to me. No matter how hard I tried to hide our love affair, everyone around me knew what was going on. I was in denial that someone like you would be so cruel.
I thought we had a good thing going. Looking back I didn’t realize how wrong that statement would be. You have cost me countless times not remembering things that happened or conversations I had. You led me to believe that everything was good and you would behave. You even spent the night on many occasions, promising me a good time but then laughing in my face the next morning while my head was splitting and my stomach turning. Somehow you always convinced me to come back and you would take care of me.
You tricked me over and over again and I fell for it every time. You cost me a marriage and missed events with my loved ones. That wasn’t enough for you though. I found a wonderful woman who loves me and somehow you continued to wiggle your way into my life. She has put up with you and I’s relationship for so long. I love her so much and yet you manage to twist my thinking into making you more important. It pisses me off that you have that kind of control over my life. You are toxic to me and no good for my life! For too long I have let you take over my life. For too long I have allowed your hold on me to hurt the ones I love.
I am here to tell you now that I am taking my life back. No more will you have your grip on me. I am better than that and I deserve to be free from you. My loved ones are way more important to me than you are. You are no longer welcome to be a part of my life. You have been a friend and an enemy to me and have made our relationship unbearable. This is why I must leave you behind. I know you meddle in so many peoples life but I will no longer allow you to tear mine apart.
Maybe someday when I am old and alone we may meet again, but for now I have to let you go for my sake. So long my friend, you are not welcome at my doorstep from this point on. Don’t try to follow me to work or anywhere else I may go. I will not acknowledge you so you will only be wasting your time.